We are using Poly as a shortened term for Polyamorous individuals or couples that love or desire to love more than one person. What is Polyamorous anyway? It is one of the ethical non-monogamous style of relationships, which we describe as having multiple romantic relationships where all parties involved are not only aware of each other, but also consent to each other “sharing the love”. The variations can seem to be endless and the boundaries are set by the individuals involved.
Being poly minded and living a poly life can be rewarding on so many levels despite the complexities. Have you heard someone say, “I can’t be your everything.”? A lot of Poly or poly minded people would agree with that statement. In general, the people that we choose to have in our closest circle satisfy different needs in us and us in them. With being poly, we allow ourselves to love these individuals romantically and some sexually as well. Therefore, we don’t expect “everything” from one individual. If you are a swinger you might have swingships- regular or repeat sexual encounters with the same person or couples but not have a commitment or romantic love feelings for them.
A few polyamory terms that may help give an understanding of the dynamics in some poly relationships are:
· Nesting partner is often the primary partner. May or may not be married.
· Triad or as I like to call it a throuple is a poly relationship where three people are all equally committed to each other with or without sex.
· Vee is a polyamorous relationship involving three people where one person is romantically and sexually involved with the other two, but the two are not romantically or sexually involved with each other. Thus, the difference from a triad.
· Quad is a poly relationship between four people. Often it is two couples that develop a committed relationship with each other. All may or may not be romantically or sexually involved with each other. If all four as a unit are not romantically or sexually involved, it may be what in swinging terms is called “wife swapping” except love and commitment is part of the equation.
What makes you lovestyle (polyamory) is the fact that you have or are searching to have more than one committed loving relationship simultaneously. Everything else is boundaries and honest and effective communication. Every poly unit no matter the number of people involved is as unique as any other relationship.
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